Success is a subjective notion, if there ever was one. But for simplicity’s sake, let’s assume the higher you are onMaslow’s hierarchy of needs, the better you’re doing. In case you don’t remember the levels from Psych 101, essentially, people can’t be their best possible selves (self-actualization) until lower-level needs are met first. In other words, you can’t be an ideal version of yourself if you don’t have enough food andmoneyto pay the bills, or enough love and esteem tofeel goodabout your value as a humanbeing. So, what can you do to move yourself up the pyramid?
Check out the findings from several studies, which shine a light on what it takes to achieve more in life.
1.Increase your confidence by taking action.
Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, authors ofThe Confidence Code, wrote a stellar article forThe Atlanticon this subject. Highlighting scads of studies that have found that a wide confidence gap exists between the sexes, they point out that success is just as dependent on confidence as it is on competence. Their conclusion? Low confidence results in inaction. “[T]aking action bolsters one’s belief in one’s ability to succeed,” they write. “So confidence accumulates–through hard work, through success, and even through failure.”
2.Broaden your definition of authenticity
.Authenticity is a much sought-after leadership trait, with the prevailing idea being that the best leaders are those who self-disclose, are true to themselves, and who make decisions based on their values. Yet in a recentHarvard Business Reviewarticle titled “The Authenticity Paradox,” Insead professor Herminia Ibarra discusses interesting research on the subject and tells the cautionary tale of a newly promoted general manager who admitted to subordinates that she felt scared in her expanded role, asking them to help her succeed. “Her candor backfired,” Ibarra writes. “She lost credibility with people who wanted and needed a confident leader to take charge.” So know this: Play-acting to emulate the qualities of successful leaders doesn’t make you a fake. It merely means you’re a work in progress.
3.Improve your social skills
According toresearchconducted by University ofCalifornia Santa Barbara economist Catherine Weinberger, the most successful business people excel in both cognitive ability and social skills, something that hasn’t always been true. She crunched data linking adolescent skills in 1972 and 1992 with adult outcomes, and found that in 1980, having both skills didn’t correlate with better success, whereas today the combination does. “The people who are both smart and socially adept earn more in today’s work force than similarly endowed workers in 1980,” she says.
4.Train yourself to delay gratification.
The classicMarshmallow Experimentof 1972 involved placing a marshmallow in front of a young child, with the promise of a second marshmallow if he or she could refrain from eating the squishy blob while a researcher stepped out of the room for 15 minutes. Follow-upstudies over the next 40 years found that the children who were able to resist the temptation toeat the marshmallow grew up to be people with better social skills, higher test scores, and lower incidence of substance abuse. They also turned out to be less obese and better able to deal with stress. But how to improve your ability to delay things like eating junk food when healthy alternatives aren’t available, or to remain on the treadmill when you’d rather just stop?Writer James Clear suggests starting small, choosing one thing to improve incrementally every day, and committing to not pushing off things that take less than two minutes to do, such as washing the dishes after a meal or eating a piece of fruit to work toward the goal of eating healthier. Committing to doing something every single day works too. “Top performers in every field–athletes, musicians, CEOs, artists–they are all more consistent than their peers,” hewrites. “They show up and deliver day after day while everyone else gets bogged down with the urgencies of daily life and fights a constant battlebetween procrastination and motivation.”
5.Embrace a “growth mindset.”
According to research conducted by Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck, how people view their personality affects their capacity for happiness and success. Those with a “fixed mindset” believe things like character, intelligence, and creativity are unchangeable, and avoiding failure is a way of proving skill and smarts. People with a “growth mindset,” however, see failure as a wayto grow and therefore embracechallenges, persevere against setbacks, learn from criticism, and reach higher levels of achievement. “Do people with this mindset believe that anyone can be anything, that anyone with proper motivation or education can become Einstein or Beethoven? No, but they believe that a person’s true potential is unknown (and unknowable); that it’s impossible to foresee what can be accomplishedwith years of passion, toil, and training,” shewrites.
Some points to acknowledge
- Being the most successful comes with everyday hardwork,determination,patience and the “i can do it mindset”. Takes us to new height.
- Moving with a fast pace wont get us there faster, but would take us down faster.Sucess grows and is not achieved with a rush, it is earned.
- Forbidding wrong mindsets, can make our brain think positively, which will possibly lead to life changing ideas.
What we choose to become depends on the common individual, everyone was made to suceed unless you choose to.